Attachment Games and Little Birdie

I have been using Core Attachment Therapy© for many years now. Every so often a gift of its power comes to me.

This gift came in the form of a 4 year old who is in the guardianship of her grandmother. Here in the state of New Hampshire, many grandparents are raising their grandchildren due to the opioid crisis. When we began, her initial response was avoidance. This is typical for children with developmental trauma. However within moments, she looked at her grandmother, took a deep breath and jump on her lap to be held. We started the attachment games. Within seconds, she grasped the emotional meaning behind what we are attempting to do.

As she took in the nutrition of the food she was being given, she would “tweet” each time she was ready for more. From there, this “baby bird” got stronger and would flap her wings. This continued by flying away with each morsel and returning. She then upped the emotional risk pretending to lose a feather at each flight, finding it, then heading it to her grandmother to be put on. From one feather it progressed to 2 feathers. It was as if she was telling her grandmother “I fully trust you with healing my heart.”



One thought on “Attachment Games and Little Birdie

  1. Nancy says:

    It has been such a joy raising this little birdie. My husband and I have learned so much through Core Therapy. The other day we were walking along and the little birdie said “look I have another freckle” and then we compared freckles. This was one of the games we played in core therapy. We continue to play the feather game and twinkle twinkle is still her favorite bedtime song. We treasure every moment we have with this happy little birdie. Thank you so much for your dedication and commitment to helping all the children.


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