JUST halfway through the attachment games in Core Attachment Therapy© with a soon to be adopted 4 year old from the foster care system with her new mother. This typically seems to be the beginning of the turn around point for most children engaged in this process when the impact of secure attachment starts becoming apparent.
In this case, this little girl had a week of calm behavior. At her preschool, she had no episodes of hitting another child, chasing another child or biting another child. In addition to this, she spent the night at her grandmother’s house without fussy about leaving her mother. And the most beneficial to all, she is sleeping through the night. The mother attributes this to Core Attachment Therapy© since this is the only thing that is different in their lives.
As I continued Core Attachment Therapy© with a family who had adopted their daughter from Sierra Leone, it was humbling to witness the power of this process.
This family had already successfully completed Phases 1 and 2 of the Attachment Games. Due to illnesses, several sessions in a row were missed. During those absences, the girl (who is in her mid-teens) had regressed to the behaviors that brought her to treatment. As we looked more carefully at this, abandonment issues had arisen again from the lack of continuity.
I intensified the child’s connection with her mother by helping her get attunement by feeling her mother’s heart beat along with feeling her mother’s breathing. She was overwhelmed with emotion and then stated she felt less alone and wished she “could have come home sooner.”
Those that know her wish she did too.